其实，不是那个人不适合她，只是他太早出现了，而她尚未成熟

read tis article.. find it very meaningful n somehow feel kind of emo.. haha.. is chinese..

她和他是初恋情人，两人谈了 8 年恋爱。从 18 岁到 26 岁。初恋情人常常是缘分最被辜负的情人。年轻的时候，我们连自己也摆不平。总是有许多莫名其妙的误会，有些不该随意说出口的赌气话，有时还有一些不知道为什么会失控的心猿意马，还有一些对于爱情过渡的索求或要求完美爱情的想像，使得年少激情随着时光消磨殆尽。

其实，不是那个人不适合她（或他），只是他太早出现了，而她尚未成熟，还没有办法安稳于一份感情。

就在两人已经一起买了新房，就要论及婚嫁时，她有了另一个追求者：一个公司新同事。新人比旧人更懂得珍惜她、欣赏她，穷追不舍。她本来没有打算背叛盟约，可是当时，旧人不知体谅，处处和她呕气。

有一回，她只不过多说了两句，盛怒的他就对她吼道：“我再也受不了你了。”　她说，她要搬走。　“搬走最好，搬出去就不要回来！”　她就这样一去不回了。来帮她搬家的，就是那名新同事，对她千般殷勤，很快就表明非她莫娶。她答应了婚事。

这时候，他后悔了。虽然她离开之后，他也有女伴，不过，当喜帖在他手上颤抖时，他才发现，最爱的是她，没有办法遗忘的是她。

已经来不及了。只剩下包红包的权利。他单身了一段时间，只是不承认，他其实是在等她。越等越是绝望。 7 年年匆匆过去，她变成两个小孩的妈。第 8 年，他结婚了，有了自己的家庭。　第 9 年，她离婚了。婚姻并没有比爱情更经得起考验。她的婚姻因第三者介入而生变。恢复单身的她，厄运连连，母亲因癌症离世后，她发现自己也得了一样的病。

他知道了。两人这才再度见面。那一段时间，只要有空，他就会到医院看她。就算是没空，也有个不言的约定。每晚 11 点，他准时打电话给她。聊的事情很寻常，也常重复，不过是问候的话语。知道走过的路不可能回头，他也知道自己没办法回头。

就这样，每日不间断的问候。已经 5 年了，她说： 改变总是比承诺力量强大。像这样的小小承诺，不管欢喜悲伤，已经成为护持她的力量，就值得了当时的爱。

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读了很有感觉，尤其是　“其实，不是那个人不适合她，只是他太早出现了，而她尚未成熟”
feel that tis sentence is quite true for alot of ppl.. is not that your boyfriend or girlfriend DON'T SUIT YOU OR NOT YOUR CUP OF TEA, IS HE/SHE APPEAR TOO EARLY and YOU ARE NOT MATURE ENOUGH.. so.. dun always because of quarrel and say hurting stuff to each other n at that point of time, bcoz of angry, end the relationship which you 2 treasure n cherish alot.. and stop saying hurting n mean words to each other.. BOTH OF YOU WILL GET MATURE 1 DAY & REALISE THAT YOU 2 ARE REALLI SUIT FOR EACH OTHER.. quarrel is inevitable but dun make it a habit although people say "吵架是情绪" but always quarrel the relationship will get cold.. 吵多了，感情会淡的.. but if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend that dun quarrel with you everything also let you.. there must be some problems.. coz in a relationship cannot always 1 saying tis then the other everything also fine.. i haf a friend coz her boyfriend everything also let her.. make her feel very dominating n feel that the guy dun haf any stand.. this is part of the reason that they broke up.. but they suit for each other.. but the guy is too good.. good till make the ger feel that he dun haf any say in anything.. but afterall.. quarrel or disagreement is common in a relationship.. but please dun bcoz of that point of time too angry n say hurtful n mean words to him/her that u care coz in the future.. you will regret.. JIAYOU my friends.. 相爱容易相处难.. loving each other is easy but getting along for long is difficult but i believe you people can make it de =) dun be like mi worz.. haha..

MORAL of the story : DON'T SAY HURTFUL & MEAN WORDS to the ONE YOU LOVE AT THE POINT OF ANGER & DISAPPOINTMENT.. COOL DOWN & TALK THINGS OUT PEACEFULLY.. I BELIEVE LOVE is STRONG ENOUGH to BRING LOVING COUPLE THROUGH EVERYTHING ^_^ 我相信爱能包容一切，只要爱得深，就不怕爱的考验。

for mi.. i need to get more mature each day =) so when you come.. it will not be the case whereby i don't suit you (not your cup of tea) or you appear too early or i'm not mature enough.. i believe.. 1 day.. you will come and will be with mi forever =) it might take very long for that 1 day that you will appear but i'll wait coz if is you are the one that will share with mi all my happiness n pains.. then it is worth waiting for you.. as long as is worth waiting for, i will wait..